Attracting Love begins with Loving Oneself

Each week I met so many single people, men and women alike who are keen to find their life partners. Sometimes they are under pressure by their families to get married quickly, as they hit the third decade of their life, and sometimes they are just sick and tired of being single and as they say “feeling left out while all their friends are busy tying the knot”

A tough place to be for all single and looking, the Tarot can sometimes tell you if someone is entering your life, what the person is like and whether it would lead to something more permanent like a long term relationship or marriage.

But what happens when the cards don’t reveal a Mr or Miss Right? I’ve had young women break down believing this was the end, and that they were doomed to be on the shelf for the rest of their lives. Not true, I state time and time again. Just because your Tarot spread or Astro chart does not reveal the immediate arrival of your life partner does not mean singlehood for the rest of your life. A firm believer in Love’s energies, I’ve seen how certain ancient remedies and internal change can help aid you attract love into your life to some degree.

Let’s start with remedies. Feng Shui for instance places a lot of importance on the South West sector of your bedroom or house, the area for marriage, the married woman and love and romance. Energising this area with crystals, lights, figurines and candles has been known to enhance love luck to some degree. In crystal healing, the most basic healing stone the Rose Quartz is believed to enhance love within oneself and attract love towards oneself. Correctly energized and worn, many crystals and gems when worn with a sense of faith have attracted romantic attention to the wearers life, sometimes more than necessary. In colour healing as well, colors like pink and red can enliven your love life considerably. Soft shades like rose, salmon and coral can attract a gentle partner who is attentive to your needs, while bold colors like scarlet, crimson and burgundy will draw a passionate adventurer to your side. Meditation, visualization and mantras exist which have been in practice for hundreds of years to boost our loving vibrations to help attract attract the right mate.

But I’ve discovered more than remedies and external aides, an internal change is where anyone looking for love needs to begin from. Remember love works in mysterious ways and this force has a way of showing up and revealing its power to you when you least expect it.

Recognise and value the loving being that you are. All of us are born to love and we respond to love since the time we were babies. Love does not have to be romantic to start with, and to recognize our loving energies we need to get in touch with our hearts. Think about a young child who you love dearly, feel the love swell up in your heart and allow the energies to surround you. That’s a perfect start.
Make a note of all the things you love about yourself. Loving yourself is not vanity, it’s the cornerstone to healing and growth. Don’t expect another person to fill in your gaps if you are incomplete within. Value yourself first, love and appreciate your good points and seek to find the good in others. Love exists all around us, wake up and recognize it, in its many shades and forms.
Think back to all the love you have received in your life, start with your parents, your friends, your lovers and truly believe that you deserve to be loved. Forgive, forget and let go of the heartbreaks. When we learn to free ourselves of the past baggage we make space for fresh, new loving energies to enter.
In a meditative state, visualize your life partner, going into detail about how you would like him or her to look like, smell like, feel like. Think about his or her qualities and the kind of relationship you’d like to be in. By directing positive and constructive thoughts outwards, you are freeing yourself from self defeating energies like loneliness and pity, to a clear intent towards the Universe.
Daily affirmations like “I give and receive love easily and joyfully” and “I love and approve of myself” help draw in positive energies towards you and within you.
Finally, be patient, the Universe works in mysterious ways and follows its own time zone. Sometimes results appear almost magically, or as a woman told me “I cant believe it, after I learned to love myself, I found the man of my dreams within a few months” and sometimes you may need to wait a little longer. But it’s better to wait in a loving state of mind than feel sorry for yourself or allow yourself to get doubtful, anxious and worried.

Remember love exists, and like every other being on this planet, you deserve to be loved. Love is perfect, it is only us human beings who are not. And sometimes it’s worth the wait for Miss or Mr Right.

Mita Bhan

Psychic Tarot Reader & Holistic Practitioner